Something that can happen in therapy for disabled kids is:
People hold out hope that the kid won’t be disabled anymore, when they grow up.
So they push the kid as hard as possible in childhood, and tell them (often without saying this explicitly) that if they just work hard, their body won’t be wrong anymore.
This doesn’t work.
People who are disabled as children are usually still disabled as adults. Even if the therapy helped them. Even if they gained new physical abilities. Even if they learned things from it they wouldn’t have learned without it.
Even if they learn to walk. Even if they learn to talk. No matter what other skills they acquire. Their body is probably going to stay very different from most other people’s bodies, and far from the cultural norm.
And… part of living well as a person with a disability is accepting the body and the brain that you have, and working with it rather than against it.
Because you can’t live in an imaginary body; you can’t live in an abstraction. You have to live your own life, as you actually are. And sometimes that involves medical treatment, sometimes it involves equipment, sometimes it involved therapy - but always, it involves reality. You can’t willpower yourself into being someone else.
Disabled kids tend to get taught the opposite message, because childhood therapy is usually cure-oriented even for conditions that aren’t anywhere close to curable. It’s about normalization, much more than functioning well.
Then they go through all manner of hell unlearning this once they’re old enough that everyone gives up on pretending that a cure is going to happen.
If you’re responsible to or for kids with disabilities, do what you can to protect them from this. Make sure they aren’t being pushed to hang their self-worth on accomplishing things that are physically impossible or implausible. Help them to understand hat their bodies aren’t wrong. Teach them that they already have lives worth living.
This is literally breathtaking.
My friend just sent this to me… wow. Watch until the end.
Nothing makes sense anymore
Oh my god.
Wow. I literally have tears in my eyes, that was spectacular.
This exact act was part of Amaluna when I went to see it earlier this year, and I swear, I have never heard an audience so quiet in my LIFE. I remember thinking at the time, too, that I had never imagined an audience holding its collective breath to see if someone could keep a stack of things balanced that way before, but the audience reactions were very much like the ones in this video. It was amazing.
I saw this last week and since I knew that the first graders were working with balance in science class, I sent this over to their teachers. One of them came to tell me that her group of rowdy seven-year-olds had been completely transfixed watching this.
As was I.
WHEREDOTHEYSELLTHOSE?! I need them so bad. This is absolutely perfect.
They sell them at Target
This is a fantastic idea.
Raging pharmacology boner.
Bonus points for being single chemical pills.
you should check out their website! http://www.helpineedhelp.com
If you think that packaging is brill, wait until you see the site.
This company is a marketer’s wet dream.
That website is fantastic. Seriously, click on it and check out the whole site. Best waste of time EVER.
you can’t enjoy a single amoral asshole character anymore without fandom wanting to woobify them into a teddy bear
#plot twist: just because you like a bad character doesn’t mean you’re a bad person #just because you want to bang them doesn’t mean you have to try and make them a good person #the sex is better with the baddies anyway lbr
That’s why I enjoyed Ryan on Lost Girl so much. He was an asshole to the day he left, and all with a smile on his face. Of course, I don’t know what fandom made of him…
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This quote is sitting above my desk for those days when I’m tired of trying to sort out my life for the next twenty years. Today is one of those days, so I’m so glad to see this again.
I know, seriously this quote keeps me going some days when I just can’t… <3
This is important. This is very, very, very fucking important.
Favourite Moments per Character:
→ 10. Hale Santiago (as voted by my followers)
“paper cuts or blowtorch” seems like a really wide pain range
great. tomorrow i’m gonna feel either a papercut or a blowtorch.
This is useful, but it’s hard to tell whether some of the lines are pointing towards the front or the back.
I’ve had one done on my upper arm and hardly hurt at all, certainly less than having highlights done with a cap. (And yet no one ever asks “Didn’t that hurt?” about highlights.) Having another done in a few weeks slightly below the first one, let’s see what that merits.